I keep seeing vague answers on other forums so figured I'd ask people who actually know.
What bothers me most is how hard it is to find real, unfiltered opinions. Forums like this are honestly more useful than any best-of list I've found.
I've noticed a big difference between platforms that moderate actively and those that don't. The ones that skip it become unusable within a few months.
If you've got experience with any platforms or approaches that work, drop them below.