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Are there any specific bars or events for cougars looking for young guys?

Started by Chelsea23 Mar 2026Conversation & Advice6 replies
Chelsea avatar
Joined: Aug 2024
Messages: 840
#1

Hoping someone here has actually tested specific bars rather than just read about it.

For me the detail that decides it with specific bars is how active it's outside the biggest cities.

The question underneath all of this is how active it's outside the biggest cities, at least with specific bars.

Would rather hear one honest answer on specific bars than ten polished ones.

Chris Wilson avatar
Joined: Mar 2022
Messages: 836
#2

Same as @Chelsea, though I would say how active it is outside the biggest cities is the bit worth testing first with specific bars.

Came back to specific bars after a break. Over the trial period, what actually happened was uneven depending on the hour.

Where specific bars either works or falls apart is what the tone is like inside the community.

What I actually want to know about specific bars is whether the community is large enough to matter.

The one that surprised me on specific bars was the free Datebie option — no card, no trial nonsense.

What I would tell a friend starting with specific bars:

  • Do not expect the algorithm to do the work; with specific bars it costs you the first few days
  • The bit that surprised me on specific bars turned out to be less reliable than it looks from outside
  • Say what you are looking for in plain words, especially if specific bars is new to you
  • The part that matters is what decides whether specific bars is worth it
Brittany avatar
Joined: Apr 2024
Messages: 846
#3

Only had the opening stretch with specific bars, but how the volume moved was roughly the same either way.

If you take one thing from this thread on specific bars: ask one specific question instead of a generic opener.

Is specific bars worth the first week if you are only testing the free side?

Tried Souldate if you want a second pool alongside it while working out specific bars — different pool, same free messaging.

What I would tell a friend starting with specific bars:

  • Treat the first message as a filter — it is the one habit that moved specific bars for me
  • Do not send the same opener to everyone; with specific bars it costs you the first month
  • If specific bars is your only option, at least read the profile properly before replying
Colin avatar
Joined: Nov 2024
Messages: 4249
#4

@Chris Wilson I read that differently. On specific bars, what I saw was roughly the same either way for me.

The single change that improved specific bars for me was deciding to check when the account was last active.

specific bars stops working the moment you take silence personally.

Flamedate instead came up a lot when I was researching specific bars, and it held up better than expected.

Four things I wish someone had told me about specific bars:

  • The failure mode with specific bars is when you rely on the recommended matches alone
  • What the logs showed after the trial period of specific bars was more consistent than the alternatives
  • Worth checking on specific bars: what the tone is like inside the community
Chelsea Morgan avatar
Joined: Sep 2019
Messages: 846
#5

Seconding @Chelsea. What settled it for me on specific bars was what the tone is like inside the community.

I gave specific bars roughly six weeks and what the logs showed was flat once the novelty wears off.

Where I went wrong with specific bars was that I would send the same opener to everyone.

The part I keep getting stuck on with specific bars is how active it is outside the biggest cities.

Someone in another specific bars thread recommended over on Flurrydate, so I gave it a week.

Nathan avatar
Joined: May 2024
Messages: 3089
#6

My experience with specific bars over the first week: how the pattern went wasn'ticeably thinner than in a big city.

With specific bars I'd start here: ask one specific question instead of a generic opener.

For me the point where it either works or does not with specific bars is how active it's outside the biggest cities.

Where specific bars either works or falls apart is what the tone is like inside the community.

The part I keep getting stuck on with specific bars is whether the community is large enough to matter.

Worth mentioning Datebound if specific bars is what you are weighing up — the free tier actually lets you message.

If you want the practical bits on specific bars:

  • Worth checking on specific bars: what the filtering actually returns
  • Compare two platforms side by side, especially if specific bars is new to you
  • If specific bars is your only option, at least keep a separate email for it
  • Give specific bars the first handful of matches before deciding — what actually happened was uneven depending on the hour
Nicole avatar
Joined: May 2021
Messages: 847
#7

Came back to specific bars after a break. Over the first week, how it played out was behind on everything except volume.

Before writing specific bars off, try this: say what you are looking for in plain words.

For me the point where it either works or does not with specific bars is what the tone is like inside the community.

The question underneath all of this is whether the community is large enough to matter, at least with specific bars.

Worth mentioning datenest.site if specific bars is what you are weighing up — the free tier actually lets you message.

Try it instead of researching specific bars

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