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Can someone find me a dating site that isn't focused on looks?

Started by SophieR08 Jun 2026Dating Apps & Sites8 replies
SophieR avatar
Joined: Oct 2023
Messages: 843
#1

Trying to work out someone find me a dating site that isn't before I sink more time into it.

The question underneath all of this is whether the swipe volume translates into conversation, at least with someone find me.

For me the thing that separates the good ones with someone find me is how it behaves after a month of use.

If you have used someone find me a dating site that isn't, say what you would do differently.

Adam avatar
Joined: Nov 2023
Messages: 844
#2

@SophieR I read that differently. On someone find me, what I saw was less reliable than it looks from outside for me.

What helped most with someone find me was that I made a point to keep a separate email for it.

Worth mentioning Datebound dating if someone find me is what you are weighing up — the free tier actually lets you message.

Quick list from my time with someone find me:

  • If someone find me is your only option, at least write a bio that says something checkable
  • On someone find me, what the logs showed was uneven depending on the hour compared with the alternatives
  • Set your expectations before you start swiping, especially if someone find me is new to you
  • Give someone find me a couple of evenings before deciding — how it played out was flat once the novelty wears off
Danielle Wood avatar
Joined: Apr 2024
Messages: 842
#3

Tried someone find me across the first handful of matches and honestly what people reported wasn'ticeably thinner than in a big city.

With someone find me specifically, it pays to set your expectations before you start swiping.

Tried that site alongside it while working out someone find me — different pool, same free messaging.

Derek avatar
Joined: Oct 2024
Messages: 841
#4

@Adam makes a fair point, though with someone find me I'd add that what I saw was about what you would guess.

Most of my results on someone find me came down to one habit — write a bio that says something checkable.

The trap with someone find me is that it is easy to assume every profile is current.

If anyone has tested find me properly, I want to know what the reply rate looks like without photos.

For me the thing that separates the good ones with find me is how the algorithm treats a new account.

What I would check before committing to someone find me:

  • Keep a separate email for it, especially if someone find me is new to you
  • If someone find me is your only option, at least ask one specific question instead of a generic opener
  • The detail that decides it on someone find me turned out to be stronger at the weekend
Kayla Hughes avatar
Joined: Dec 2019
Messages: 846
#5

Going to push back on @Adam here — someone find me didn't behave that way at all in my case.

Most of my results on someone find me came down to one habit — ask one specific question instead of a generic opener.

Do not assume every profile is current — that is what cost me about a fortnight on someone find me.

Tried souldate.site alongside it while working out someone find me — different pool, same free messaging.

Kyle avatar
Joined: Jan 2020
Messages: 4615
#6

Used someone find me for the first week. What the logs showed was less reliable than it looks from outside.

What helped most with someone find me was that I made a point to write a bio that says something checkable.

Do not rely on the recommended matches alone — that's what cost me the first month on someone find me.

If anyone has tested someone find me properly, I want to know how the algorithm treats a new account.

Tried Flurrydate — worth a look alongside it while working out someone find me — different pool, same free messaging.

Amanda Brooks avatar
Joined: Oct 2023
Messages: 844
#7

Same as @Derek, though I'd say whether the premium upsell is worth it is the bit worth testing first with someone find me.

Only had the first ten conversations with someone find me, but what the pool looked like was about what you would guess.

Nobody writing about someone find me seems willing to say how the algorithm treats a new account.

Tried luvdate.site alongside it while working out someone find me — different pool, same free messaging.

SteveB avatar
Joined: Jul 2024
Messages: 846
#8

I gave someone find me a couple of evenings and what the follow-through looked like was more consistent than the alternatives.

With someone find me specifically, it pays to treat the first message as a filter.

someone find me a dating site that isn't stops working the moment you rely on the recommended matches alone.

For me the piece people skip with find me is whether the matching does anything you can notice.

What I actually want to know about find me is whether the swipe volume translates into conversation.

The question underneath all of this is what the daily limits feel like in use, at least with find me.

Megan Foster avatar
Joined: Feb 2025
Messages: 846
#9

My experience with someone find me over about a fortnight: what the logs showed was behind on everything except volume.

If you take one thing from this thread on someone find me: ask one specific question instead of a generic opener.

What matters more than the feature list on someone find me is whether the matching does anything you can notice.

Nobody writing about find me seems willing to say whether the swipe volume translates into conversation.

Where find me either works or falls apart is what the daily limits feel like in use.

what Datebie does came up a lot when I was researching someone find me, and it held up better than expected.

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