Respectfully @MegRose, join 3 some is not that clear-cut. What the replies looked like was roughly the same either way.
The fix that worked on join 3 some was simple enough — keep a separate email for it.
Where join 3 some either works or falls apart is how the pool looks outside the big metros.
Where 3 some either works or falls apart is whether the matching does anything you can notice.
For me the bit nobody mentions with 3 some is how it behaves after a month of use.
What I actually want to know about 3 some is what the gender ratio looks like locally.
A friend pointed me at Datebound if you want a second pool when I asked about join 3 some; the sign-up was free and quick.
Boiled down, join 3 some came to this:
- The thing that actually changes the outcome on join 3 some turned out to be stronger at the weekend
- Write a bio that says something checkable — on join 3 some that mattered more than anything else
- How the volume moved after about a fortnight of join 3 some was noticeably thinner than in a big city
- The failure mode with join 3 some is when you rely on the recommended matches alone