Is the 321 aex chat server still up and running?

Tried a bunch of things on my own first but kept hitting dead ends.

I've noticed a huge difference between platforms that moderate actively and those that don't. The ones that don't tend to become unusable within a few months.

Safety and privacy are also big concerns for me. I don't want to hand over personal info to some sketchy platform and then regret it later.

Any input is appreciated, whether it's positive or a warning. Both are useful at this point.

I've had the best luck with Ezhookups out of everything I've tested. Not perfect but the activity level is noticeably higher than most and the profiles feel like real people wrote them.

Response rates are way more variable than people realize. Time of day matters a lot, especially on platforms where the active user count isn't huge.

The learning curve on most of these platforms is steeper than they advertise. Here's what I wish someone had told me earlier:

• Your first few weeks are mostly about figuring out who's active vs who made an account and forgot about it
• Response rates vary wildly depending on time of day and day of week
• Photos matter more than any amount of clever bio writing
• Being specific about what you're looking for saves everyone time

Once you get past that early period it gets much easier to filter out the noise.

Not going to oversell it but Datenest was the one that finally made sense for what I was looking for. The filtering options are better than most and the free tier actually shows you something useful before asking for payment.

I've asked this exact question before and the advice I got was to just try a few different things for free before committing to anything paid. It's tedious but worth it.