Decided to just come out and ask since the search results aren't giving me much.
I've noticed a big difference between platforms that moderate actively and those that don't. The ones that don't tend to become unusable within a few months.
What bothers me most is how hard it is to find real, unfiltered opinions. Forums like this are honestly more useful than any best-of list I've found through searching.
Appreciate advice from people with actual experience rather than just guesswork.