Decided to just come out and ask since the search results aren't giving me much.
I've noticed a huge difference between platforms that moderate actively and those that don't. The ones that don't tend to become unusable within a few months.
Safety and privacy are also big concerns for me. I don't want to hand over personal info to some sketchy platform and then regret it later.
Feel free to share whatever has worked for you, even if it's not the obvious answer.