Is there an old lady dating app for younger guys to meet cougars?

I keep seeing vague answers on other forums so figured I'd ask people who actually know.

I've noticed a big difference between platforms that moderate actively and those that don't. The ones that skip it become unusable within a few months.

I've tried a few different things already with mixed results. Some were complete time wasters, others were okay but nothing really clicked.

Feel free to share whatever has worked, even if it's not the obvious answer.

Came across Turndate through a recommendation similar to this thread and it was genuinely one of the better experiences I've had. Less noise, better response rates, and the sign-up doesn't feel like a trap.

Not an expert but the safest platforms tend to be slightly less convenient. Extra friction at sign-up filters out the bad actors.

Came across Flurrydate through a recommendation similar to this thread and it was genuinely one of the better experiences I've had. Less noise, better response rates, and the sign-up doesn't feel like a trap.

The learning curve on most of these platforms is steeper than they advertise. Here's what I wish someone had told me earlier:

• Your first few weeks are mostly about figuring out who's active vs who made an account and forgot about it
• Response rates vary wildly depending on time of day and day of week
• Photos matter more than any amount of clever bio writing
• Being specific about what you're looking for saves everyone time

Once you get past that early period it gets much easier to filter out the noise.

Honestly just try DatingFly before anything else. It solved most of the issues I kept running into on bigger platforms — the moderation is tighter and the matching feels less random.