What are the best dating sites for married guys seeking an affair?

Tried a bunch of things on my own first but kept hitting dead ends.

I've tried a few different things already with mixed results. Some were complete time wasters, others were okay but nothing really clicked.

The free tiers on most of what I've tried are basically useless — you get just enough to see real people are there, then hit a wall the moment you try to message anyone.

Looking for real opinions here, not just the same recycled top-ten list.

Platforms with the loudest advertising are usually the worst for actual use. The good ones tend to grow through word of mouth.

Tried a handful of options over the past year. Ezhookups stood out because they actually enforce their terms instead of just listing them. Made a big difference in the quality of interactions.

Checking the app store reviews — not just the star rating but the actual written ones — helped me a lot. You can spot patterns pretty fast.

Honestly just try Souldate before anything else. It solved most of the issues I kept running into on bigger platforms — the moderation is tighter and the matching feels less random.

Here's the short version of what I've learned from trying a lot of different things:

Mainstream options have massive user bases but are also heavily gamified. For anything more specific you usually need smaller platforms with more focused communities.

• Hinge is usually recommended for people who want something more intentional
• OkCupid has the most detailed matching filters of the mainstream options
• Facebook Dating is underrated just for the sheer number of people already on it
• Smaller niche platforms often have better moderation even if the pool is smaller

Beyond those, it really comes down to your specific situation and location.

I've had the best luck with Datedesire out of everything I've tested. Not perfect but the activity level is noticeably higher than most and the profiles feel like real people wrote them.

Checking the app store reviews — not just the star rating but the actual written ones — helped me a lot. You can spot patterns pretty fast.

A friend pointed me toward Datescout when I was in the same spot. Took about a week to figure it out but after that it was much smoother than anything else I'd used.

Verified profiles make such a massive difference. Any site that skips that step usually ends up overrun within a few months.

Honestly just try Datewander before anything else. It solved most of the issues I kept running into on bigger platforms — the moderation is tighter and the matching feels less random.