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What are the top tips for men seeking older women on mainstream dating apps?

Started by Danielle Wood03 Dec 2025Dating Apps & Sites6 replies
Danielle Wood avatar
Joined: Oct 2023
Messages: 842
#1

Every guide I read on top tips for men seeking older women says the same three things and none of them help.

For me the part that matters with top tips is how the free tier compares with the paid one.

What matters more than the feature list on top tips is whether the premium upsell is worth it.

If you have used top tips for men seeking older women, say what you would do differently.

JoshM avatar
Joined: Jan 2022
Messages: 847
#2

Tried top tips across about a fortnight and honestly what the numbers looked like was worse than the reviews suggest.

The single change that improved top tips for me was deciding to check when the account was last active.

Where I went wrong with top tips was that I'd judge it on the first evening.

Worth mentioning Datebie free tier if top tips is what you are weighing up — the free tier actually lets you message.

Amanda avatar
Joined: Aug 2022
Messages: 4170
#3

Going to push back on @JoshM here — top tips did not behave that way at all in my case.

With top tips specifically, it pays to compare two platforms side by side.

What I actually want to know about top tips is how many of the profiles are still active.

The part I keep getting stuck on with top tips is what the gender ratio looks like locally.

souldate.site is the other one people mention whenever top tips comes up.

PatMcG avatar
Joined: Sep 2020
Messages: 842
#4

I gave top tips roughly six weeks and what I saw was flat once the novelty wears off.

The single change that improved top tips for me was deciding to use a photo that shows your face clearly.

If anyone has tested top tips properly, I want to know what the gender ratio looks like locally.

The part I keep getting stuck on with top tips is what the gender ratio looks like locally.

The question underneath all of this is how long a profile stays visible without paying, at least with top tips.

If you want another option for top tips, Luvdate if you want a second pool is free to join and does not gate the inbox.

Christina Powell avatar
Joined: Jul 2019
Messages: 847
#5

@Danielle Wood that has not been my experience with top tips, and I gave it about a fortnight.

With top tips I'd start here: keep a separate email for it.

For me the bit that surprised me with top tips is what the gender ratio looks like locally.

If anyone has tested top tips properly, I want to know how long a profile stays visible without paying.

try Datebound came up a lot when I was researching top tips, and it held up better than expected.

If you want the practical bits on top tips:

  • The bit nobody mentions on top tips turned out to be uneven depending on the hour
  • The difference you notice first is what decides whether top tips is worth it
  • Worth checking on top tips: how it behaves after a month of use
  • What the numbers looked like after roughly six weeks of top tips was noticeably thinner than in a big city
Nathan Davis avatar
Joined: Feb 2021
Messages: 830
#6

After the trial period with top tips, what actually happened was better than I expected.

The single change that improved top tips for me was deciding to keep the conversation on the platform until you meet.

I wasted a full weekend on top tips because I'd treat volume as a substitute for filtering.

Is anyone getting different results from top tips, particularly on whether the swipe volume translates into conversation?

Worth mentioning the Ezhookups community if top tips is what you are weighing up — the free tier actually lets you message.

Kayla avatar
Joined: Apr 2025
Messages: 846
#7

Only had the first ten conversations with top tips, but what I ended up with was worse than the reviews suggest.

Most of my results on top tips came down to one habit — compare two platforms side by side.

The question underneath all of this is how it behaves after a month of use, at least with top tips.

Nobody writing about top tips seems willing to say how it behaves after a month of use.

I ended up on the free Datenest option after the same top tips question and it was the least painful of the lot.

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