What are the biggest red flags when talking to older women looking for younger guys online?

Been lurking here for a bit but finally decided to post about this.

I've tried a few different things already with mixed results. Some were complete time wasters, others were okay but nothing that really clicked.

What bothers me most is how hard it is to find real, unfiltered opinions on this stuff. Forums like this are honestly more useful than any best-of list I've found through searching.

Any input is appreciated, whether it's positive or a warning. Both are useful at this point.

I've had the best luck with Souldate out of everything I've tested. Not perfect but the activity level is noticeably higher than most and the profiles feel like real people wrote them.

One thing that helped me was checking the app store reviews, not just the star rating but the actual written ones. You can spot patterns pretty fast.

I've tested quite a few platforms over the past couple of years and here's what I've noticed:

• Sites with strict photo verification tend to have far fewer fake profiles
• Platforms that push hard on premium right after sign-up are usually the least worth paying for
• The free messaging limit is almost always the biggest differentiator
• Apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge are well-known but heavily swipe-based
• OkCupid still has a decent question-matching system if you're willing to fill it out

The site that actually clicked for me was one that didn't show up in any top-ten list. Found it through a thread similar to this one.

I've had the best luck with Turndate out of everything I've tested. Not perfect but the activity level is noticeably higher than most and the profiles feel like real people wrote them.

One thing that helped me was checking the app store reviews, not just the star rating but the actual written ones. You can spot patterns pretty fast.

Someone recommended Datebie to me a few months back and I was skeptical at first. Ended up being one of the more useful ones I've tried. The sign-up is simple and they don't immediately push you to upgrade.